Celebrating me. My birthday was earlier this month which had me reading my birthday card from a friend of almost 30 years – crike!. One of the things he suggested was to celebrate all month. I thought I would take this to heart, but I did not know what that meant to me or would look like. So, I thought what I might celebrate. Came up with ways to celebrate me, like taking myself to the salon to get a mani-pedi or to go get a massage – neither of which I ever did.
I got a bit derailed early on because of a tiff I had with my housemate that left me distracted. 10 days later, last night found me laying in bed thinking about making the best of me, my life, what I want for this year, how I will achieve what I want, and back to celebrating who I am and what that would look like. What I came up with was simply what is worth celebrating me for – what would I celebrate about myself if I could, because I am 🙂
My natural inclination for some time has been to be highly critical. I have heard by people that I am a perfectionist. One of my bosses first told me this some years back. I had no idea, but when I told it to my aunt, she totally agreed. Maybe I was. I finally did come to terms with it, but have since let go of it’s strong hold on me. It’s pretty freeing.
I have found my inclination for scrutiny, and perhaps also criticism, has likely come from my inner teacher, but mainly from living in a world for a period of time where I grew up where there were lots of lies and justifications for things that I felt were either unjustifiable or were excuses for people to behave badly, but I of which I never bought. Now, as an adult I have little tolerance for b.s. I can be real with what I know and believe now, and will call myself, or others, on the b.s.
I know for a long time I only looked at what was wrong with me – putting myself down. Never building myself up. I am not big on putting down myself – I realize what my issues are and ask for the Lord’s help in overcoming them, however, but I have learned that putting me down only keeps me down. I can still celebrate who I am while also working on changing what needs changing.
When thinking about celebrating me, I found things to celebrate. I thought, “What do I like about me?” I lay in bed last night stunned that the ideas were brimming. In a celebratory factor, I went for it, not worrying about boasting, because I was simply honoring where I am in this journey in which I presently am, and I like it.
I also took this idea to work with me this morning – asking every one of my students to say 1 thing they like about who they are – mentally, physically, spiritually – what ever they like. I realize many of us are scrutinizing, and we often overlook the good while under the scope, so my prayer this morning was to honor my students. What “I” came up with was to ask them, “What do you like about you?” What I found was no surprise – it was difficult for many to find anything they like. Sad too. I stayed with them until they came up with something. I put it in their minds and encouraged them to continue looking for things in themselves to honor, and to build themselves up, but also to work on what may see in themselves that needs improving, and to do that also.
So, here’s what I found for me. These are some items I like about me, what I feel celebratory about for me! Maybe I I will come up with more later, but for now, here’s what I’ve got: I’ve got dozens of reasons to celebrate me.
Here goes: What I like about Me:
- I like that I am curious
- I like that my body responds well to health food and fitness quickly
- I like that I can eat a lot and burn it quickly – I like my enzymes!
- I like my mind
- I like that I am cheerful and able to cheer up myself
- I like that I know the word of God and believe it
- I like that I am a faithful woman
- I like that I practice the word of God
- I like that prayers of mine are heard by God and answered
- I like that I know the Lord and He knows me
- I like that I am my own best friend
- I like that I have done a couple of triathlons
- I like who I am as a little sister to my brother
- I like that I prize truth and beauty most of all
- I like that I love love
- I like that I love nature and find beauty within it
- I like that I love
- I like that I am hopeful
- I like that I am positive
- I like that I am encouraging to myself and to others
- I like that I am silly
- I like that I am fun
- I like that I am spontaneous
- I like that I am kind and friendly
- I like that I am full of peace
- I like that I am interested in plants and medicine
- I like that I like science
- I like that I am privileged feeling – that I know my every day conveniences are privileged. I like that I enjoy simple pleasures, plane rides, coffee, breakfast on Sunday mornings in an outdoor café with the sun shining and cool breeze and bustle around me
- I love my sight – I like that I am grateful for it and my taste buds.
- I like that I know what I like and don’t like in relationships
- I like that I like people
- I like that I know that I get to be me and what that means
- I like that I have come around and let hate go and find love in my eyes where I see my mom
- I like that I can state my mind and I know the importance of speaking my truth
- I like that I know my hardships have brought me here and that I see
- I like that I make myself matter now
- I like that I know what responsibility feels like and like that I like how it feels
- I like that I like myself at 48
- I like that I am susceptible to suggestions – like the written statement in my birthday card to “celebrate all month” led me here – to figure out what that would look like for me? I have come up with things about myself to celebrate and here is what I have come up with so far – celebrating what I like about me.
- I like that I have stopped stopping at critical and constructing something from it instead.
- I like that I have taken my mom’s suggestion to enjoy getting to know every aspect of who I am, and to take the time to get to know me and then to be her, and to love all of the parts of being me.
- I like that I like a challenge
- I like that I have an adventurous spirit
- I like that I am a child at heart – fun and playful and kind
- I like that I am serious
- I like that I am discerning
- I like that I am better at decision making
- I like that seek peace within myself, with others
- I like that I am cute and I like that I like cute
- I like that I am honest
- I like that my body is aging well
- I like that I focus on for what I have to be grateful
- I like that I reset my mind
- I like that I have taken risks in important relationships
- I like that I do not cave when I am threatened with losing what matters to me over losing what is true to me, even when what matters is a dear member of my family
- I like that I love smart
- I like that I like to serve, to give, and to contribute to making others happy
- I like that I am an over-comer
- I like that I seek to be better
- I like that I like to play games
- I like that I dress well – most days (highly subjective)
- I like that I have good taste (also highly subjective)
- I like that I am creative
- I like that I am a good dancer
- I like that I am open-minded
- I like that I am fair
- I like that I am happy
- I like that I have a good work ethic – I am a dedicated worker
- I like that I am productive
- I like that I like who I am:)
What are you likely to celebrate about you? There are many. Embrace the lovely.